The first sexual intercourse, which is also called the first night, the wedding night, the wedding night, is very important for both partners. The first sexual intercourse can turn into a nightmare for both partners due to the incomplete information and hearsay about sexuality and the hymen in our society.
The first sexual intercourse may be negative if the man acts too hastily and uses force, and the woman contracts herself excessively as a result of her fears that her hymen will bleed excessively and it will hurt a lot.
If both partners receive sexual counseling on the subject before the first sexual intercourse, instead of hearing, incomplete, exaggerated or wrong information, all the negativities that may be experienced will be eliminated.
Importance of first experience for women
The first sexual intercourse experience is very important for a woman. The traumatic first sexual intercourse fear or experience is on the basis of sexual dysfunctions that we frequently encounter in women, such as sexual reluctance, sexual aversion disorders, inability to orgasm, and vaginismus.
Considering the first sexual experience from a woman's point of view, it is expected that the hymen is perceived as an anatomical barrier and that this structure may cause excessive bleeding and pain. However, under unprepared and unsuitable conditions, the first sexual experience with a male partner who ignores the sensitivity of the woman on this issue will cause some bad psychological effects in the woman.
Is the first sexual intercourse always painful?
In cases where the woman feels completely ready, in cases where vaginal secretions increase and slipperiness with a long foreplay, and the man avoids calm, sensitive and compelling movements, the woman does not feel pain or may feel very little pain during the disruption of the hymen. The fact that both partners focus on sexual pleasure during intercourse will further alleviate this pain.
Does the hymen always bleed during the first sexual intercourse?
The hymen may not always bleed during the first sexual intercourse. Since the structure of the hymen is different in every woman, the amount of hymen bleeding during the first sexual intercourse will also be different. In women with a flexible hymen, there may be no or very little bleeding.
In those with a thick and high-sided hymen, intercourse may not be possible at all, or if intercourse is difficult, bleeding may be excessive. The structural differences of the hymen, as well as the readiness and willingness of both partners to have intercourse, will also affect the amount of bleeding during the first sexual intercourse.
Things to Consider in the First Sexual Experience
Before the first sexual experience, both partners should give a clear message that they are ready for the relationship and that they trust each other. In the first relationship, which can be a mirror of later relationships, especially the male partner should care about the sensitivity of the woman and be understanding. Considering that it may take longer time for women to be ready for sexual intercourse by their nature, they should be more patient for the woman to relax and relax.
If the woman is forced to have sexual intercourse before she is ready for intercourse, the hymen rupture may be irregular and in this case, more bleeding and pain will occur. The more ready and willing the woman is for intercourse before the first sexual intercourse, the more secretion and wetness will occur in the vaginal area. Thus, since the vaginal lubrication will be more, the pain will be less during sexual intercourse. Foreplay is very important in the first sexual intercourse. During foreplay, both partners should focus on getting pleasure from touching each other.
Lubricating gels or baby oil can be used to increase wetness in the vaginal area. Thus, possible excessive damage to the hymen can be prevented. In the first sexual experience, positions where the woman is on top and the man is on the bottom should be preferred in order for the woman to feel that she is in control with the formation of vaginal lubrication after a long foreplay.
Partners who do not have enough information about sexuality or even do not talk about it until they get married can experience great disappointment in their first sexual experience. We recommend that every woman have a simple gynecological examination and learn about the structure of the hymen before the first sexual intercourse, which will form the basis of her later relationships. In addition, the fact that both partners receive sexual counseling instead of hearsay, inaccurate and incomplete information will make them feel more comfortable and safe in their first sexual intercourse.